Several days (weeks?) ago, Evan Sanders at The Better Man Project wrote about something that made a lot of sense to me. (BTW, go check out his site. AH-MAY-ZING) I don’t remember exactly which blog it was or I would link to it (Sorry, Evan, and if you know which one I’m talking about, leave me a comment and I’ll link to it).
I don’t even remember what the blog post was about but this idea stuck with me. People plan and plan and plan new goals and new resolutions without planning about what they will have to remove. It doesn’t even have to be something negative that needs removed. It could be that you need to remove something good to have something great. Until you can identify and remove the old, you can never bring in the new. We humans have a finite amount of things we can deal with at one time.
Pretty powerful, huh? Obviously, everyone’s list of things is going to be different. You have a different reaction to stress than me. You have different amounts of time free or busy at different times than me. You have different goals, hopes and dreams than me. (All great because life would suck if we were all the same!)
I used to have this problem. I used to be one of those people who would set New Year’s Resolutions and watch them turn into nothing. Some of that was not caring, some was not knowing how to set SMART goals, some was just the immaturity that I needed to grow out of on my own.
I haven’t had this problem for about a year and a half. I really hadn’t put it into words but I knew way down deep when I could add something new as a goal and when I was already overwhelmed and I would start cutting, sometimes without even realizing I was doing it.
Now, however, I need to cut some okay things and some good things to make way for the great things and it’s actually scarier feeling than I thought it would be. It’s easy to look at something and say “This is bad (or harmful or toxic or whatever). This has to go.” It’s a lot harder to look at something and say “This isn’t hurting me but it really isn’t what I want or need anymore so I need to make space for something better.”
So, in between a full class load, a part-time job, and being a mommy, I’m going to be doing a lot of soul-searching and a lot of list making to figure out what needs to stay and what needs to go. And I’m not just talking stuff in my home but in my mind, heart and soul as well. And since I know I need a deadline or I’ll just let life get me too busy, I’m going to randomly pick November 12, 2012 as a date to have a plan at least 75% ready to work on.
Be the change you want to see, my friends!